When you get told you're a bad mom-by someone you love

When you get told you're a bad mom-by someone you love

There is no reason to bring someone down who dedicates her every waking moment to someone other than herself.  Yes as mothers we all fall short sometimes.  We miss pick ups, or misplace favorite toys-we lose our temper, raise our voices.  It’s only 3pm and I can think of a million things I wish I’d handled differently today.  But that does NOT make me a bad mom.  It makes me human.  We all make mistakes, we all wish we could go back and have a redo sometimes-but that doesn’t mean we are bad Mother’s, or bad people. 

Rockin Mermaid Hair with April Markley

Rockin Mermaid Hair with April Markley

This dye job is nothing short of magical! It instantly reads mermaid and I get compliments every day.  Being a mom I was hesitant to dive into such a unique and outspoken color-but it has been so fun.  Children love it the most!  I’ve heard each kid I encounter talk about what color they want their hair after seeing mine.  If you are considering a new style or drastic update to your hair pay a visit to April Markley at Carson Co Salon.

News Flash-You Shouldn't Look Like Kate Middleton After Giving Birth!

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Why are we all comparing ourselves to Kate Middleton as she walks out after giving birth to meet the masses? Yes she looks amazing, but why does that matter.  I bet if you knew the world was watching as you stepped out of the hospital you’d choose to pull things together a bit more too.  To me the comparison between Middleton and myself shows the difference between being royalty and a normal human being-not the difference between a good mother and a bad.  In what world am I living that regular moms are now bashing themselves for not looking like a freaking princess?!

Ladies and gents this isn’t reality.  These photos circulating around the world aren’t even the reality of Middleton’s postpartum.  This is a staged moment that is used to represent a time in a mother’s life that is much bigger than this picture.  Even tho here all we see is a glowing pulled together Middleton gently cradling her newborn baby-the exact scene that was set for this moment.  This is NOT reality moms.  So unless you are royalty stop comparing yourself to this moment.  Actually, even if you are royalty stop comparing yourself to this picture because this in not postpartum.  This is staged.

I’m not royalty, and I left the hospital looking like I’d just been caught in a tornado-then run over by a truck.  I refused to take a shower in the hospital, despite being there three days.  My son barely slept right off the bat and the exhaustion was dripping off me as I was rolled through those front doors.  A stark contrast to the video of Kate gliding out of the hospital in her kitten heels.  But the thing is, these moments in time are more similar than you think.  Yes, the royal mommy is pulled together but both mommies are beaming.  Those smiles both say, ‘I am a proud mother and I’m taking my family home’.  BOTH mothers are reveling in a moment that isn’t effected by the way you look.  

In almost every comparison photo I’ve seen all the women share one beautiful trait.  They are all glowing with the euphoria of having just had your baby, getting to finally hold this amazing human you’ve made-and take them home.  I looked like a hot mess but I just couldn’t help but smile knowing we were heading home as a family.  That moment may not have been some glamorous press conference but why should it be?  I’m not royalty, I’m going to take full advantage of that.  It’s a luxury to have no one looking at times.  The last thing I wanted to do hours after birth was get dolled up and have my photo taken by thousands of people. 

Come on moms, you think Middleton is thrilled to get all done up and parade around in heels after just giving birth?  I can’t imagine this is her first choice of activities in that moment, but this is a duty of royalty.  A staged moment that needs to be completed before they can go home.  So stop comparing your reality to someone else’s staged photo press conference.  Be grateful you were able to roll home in your pjs and your messy bun without anyone batting an eyelash.  I’m just imagining Kate Middleton reading those comparison posts thinking how she’d kill to leave the hospital a raw mess.  The internet is a dangerous thing when we start to compare our reality to others fantasy.  You shouldn’t look like Middleton in this moment, because this isn’t that same raw moment.

I am not Kate Middleton, I’m not royalty, so I did not look like a refreshed model leaving the hospital after giving birth.  If I’m ever in some alternate world where I’m royalty I’m sure I’d pull it together for the photo op too, so would you! 

The Lost Art of Sending and Recieving Custom Mail with Morris and Company Designs

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Since I was a little girl there was something I found so magical about sending and receiving mail.  I was in middle school when email and the Internet came onto the scene and started to push out the art of custom cards and letter writing.  Between email, texting, calling, and social media outlets we all communicate in so many ways day to day-second to second.  In my opinion, this makes receiving mail even more exciting and special than it was when I was a little girl, waiting for a graduation announcement or birthday invite to come in the mail.

I personally love receiving custom mail from my friends and family.  Over the years I have collected and cherished cards sent to me and my family.  Because of the true joy receiving mail brings me I am passionate about sending out custom cards so my mailing list can experience the true gift of getting a custom card in the mail.  I’ve been known to hand paint envelopes and always spend hours hand writing each address.  Which makes for a very long card sending process.  My wedding invites, pregnancy announcement, and baby announcement took me countless hours to design and address.

While I enjoy putting my time and love into something my friends and family will glean joy from; the hand cramps and eraser shavings everywhere I could do without.  With Morris and Company Designs you can give that same beautifully crafted card without all the trouble.   They sent me an example of one of their custom creations and I was blown away.  To start these custom addressed envelopes are so beautiful.  The design is clean and classy calligraphy and the variation in text creates an elevated aesthetic.

Honestly, I’d pay to just have my wedding invite or baby announcement arrive in these beautiful envelopes, but the creative design continued inside.  The sample card I received was a stunning pregnancy announcement.  It was classic and modern all at the same time.  Morris and Company Designs meshed custom photos, unique design, and clear concise text to create a magical moment in my mailbox.  This entire design from the envelope to the card inside felt like an experience-which is exactly what I want my mail to feel like! 

If you are anything like me and want your friends and family to cherish the mail you send them, this is a wonderful company to work with.  They will design you something truly special for your mailing list to enjoy.  Right now they are offering FREE DESIGN consultations! This family is your dream designer and graphic artist all in one.  Visit Morris and Company Designs to find your dream invitation or announcement-if you love their work as much as I do use code mommonster2018 at checkout and get 20% off!!  Make your next invitation or announcement one to remember with Morris and Company Designs. And put me on your mailing list so I can enjoy the wonderful feeling of receiving custom designed mail. 

You can follow them on Facebook or Instagram at MorrisCoDesigns. 

My Worth as a Stay-at-home-mom

My Worth as a Stay-at-home-mom

' I must say, when I was rounding up all the numbers I felt pretty validated.  I felt I was generous with my time and duties as a SAHM.  The monthly cost to employ someone to do the duties of a SAHM is astronomical.  Even when I accounted for the commitment of motherhood not being something I expect to be paid for; when I only calculated childcare from 7am-5pm Mon.-Fri., the cost to replace me as a SAHM is astronomical.