'I refuse to feel like a failure at the end of the year because ‘all I’ve done’ is keep my family alive and thriving-and relatively presentable to the public. I repeat, this year I kept my entire family alive and thriving, and you know what? That’s enough! It’s enough to do what I do every day as a mother.'
' I must say, when I was rounding up all the numbers I felt pretty validated. I felt I was generous with my time and duties as a SAHM. The monthly cost to employ someone to do the duties of a SAHM is astronomical. Even when I accounted for the commitment of motherhood not being something I expect to be paid for; when I only calculated childcare from 7am-5pm Mon.-Fri., the cost to replace me as a SAHM is astronomical.
'Yes, you’re tired-we all are. Yes, you have a million things to do-my to do list is never ending. The drive will always seem long, the time inconvenient, or the cost too much. If you are anything like me, by 3pm you will be running through reasons a night out with friends isn’t needed. But here I sit, after 2.5 years of motherhood, telling you I need to prioritize my adult friendships. I deserve the time for myself to feel like more than ‘mom’. We all deserve to feel heard, appreciated, and understood. It’s vital to being a healthy, happy mom-or human for that matter.
'Turns out my body shape isn’t something my son cares about in the slightest. I’m a great mom despite my lumps and rolls, and on top of that, I AM BEAUTIFUL. My husband hasn’t once complained about my post baby body. Being skinny is not the only indicator of beauty even though that’s what we are told by society. Being skinny is the last thing on my mind as a mother.
'Pre-baby you would find me in a skimpy bikini all summer long. Now, post baby I wouldn’t be caught dead in a bikini-but that doesn’t stop me from rocking my swimsuit each year! Honestly, having a baby helped me feel LESS self conscious than ever-even though I don’t rock the same bikini I did when I was 18. I still feel like I’m rocking my bathing suit all summer long.'
'I refuse to be ashamed of treating my illness anymore than someone who takes insulin or high blood pressure medication to treat theirs. Mental illness is not a joke and it is a very real illness that is likely effecting someone you love at this very moment-and they are being told that their struggle is not real and that they are weak for seeking treatment. We need to change this stigma! Especially in motherhood. If you are struggling, you know the difference between a bad day and depression. It’s more than being tired, it’s more than being sad; and it isn’t anything you can control or treat with an attitude adjustment.
'My son isn’t even three and I already feel like he’s growing way too fast. I have personally made a choice to document everyday so that I have plenty to look back on-and ways to remember things we did together when he was little. I am making a choice to run after my kid with my phone snapping pictures all day, and I’m confident it’s the right choice for us-no matter how silly I feel sometimes.
'My mom and I have always been very close. Even when I was horrible and cruel as a teen she stood strong. I always knew I could go to her for anything, even the bad. I was lucky enough to be raised by my mother at home with us kids. Which I now know was no easy task. She had three kids in three years, and when we were children my dad traveled often. My mom did so much on her own, she carried such a heavy load and remained a strong support system for our my dad and us kids. The one thing that I feel everyday as a mother now, towards my own mom, it’s appreciation.'
'efore bringing our son home we talked about the possibility of Max being unsure about his arrival. We were both strong in saying that we had to prioritize our son’s safety, and if that meant rehoming Max we would make that very hard choice. But even before our son got here my husband and I started researching ways to help Max. We wanted him to be able to stay in our family. The last thing we wanted to do was get rid of our dog because he was nervous around children, something I honestly don’t blame him for!
'I’m not saying that I shower my husband with love each and every day, or that he is bringing me flowers each night after work. Yes we fight, yes we disagree, no we don’t shower each other with gifts, but we both put each other above all else. I can honestly say in the years my husband and I have been married I can count the number of times he has raised his voice at me on one hand. We both make it a priority to respect and love the other even when we are angry or sad. This is not easy all the time; and it’s something we have worked on over the six years we have been together.